Iniyaval Rajini
Man and woman are two parts of the same whole. Love has been persistent between the opposite gender throughout history, regardless of age, time, or centuries. Despite fresh and strangeo modernism and ideas, nothing or no one could sway that quotient. Men and women do not simply coexist; they live in perfect harmony with one another.
However, for reasons that we all know about, the balance of life between them has tipped in favour of these genders. Yes, the men’s leadership quality has been abused in the years since modernism and the media took control. When we try to figure out who in the family is the true pacemaker or peacemaker, it’s always a challenge. Women have a higher bar than men because of certain strange Indian traditions.
The way a woman handles every issue and relationship, according to her, leads to family peace. But, in reality, what would you say if I told you it’s in men’s hands again? The leader, whether it is a family, an association, or a community, determines every course, every thought, and every tradition. Why should it be any different when the leader is a man who has assigned himself to headship?
Who her father is, and who her husband is, and even who her sibling is, determine a woman’s existence! The more forceful and firm they are, the more powerful the woman becomes in ascending whatever life ladder she chooses. Irony…if the men are controlling, she must either submit to the control and give up her aspirations in order to fit into the stereotype, or she must challenge the system.
90 percent of women select the stereotype, owing to their natural desire to safeguard their children’s calm. Yes, it is her responsibility to raise and nurture her own children. Is she, however, content? No, for the sake of the future generation, she is learning to notice the little sunshines amidst the cloud of suffocation and control. What she doesn’t realise is that she’s imprinting her own nature and the nature of the family’s head on the next generation, causing families and society to devolve faster in the long term.
Yes, a small fraction of women dare to defy stereotypes, and she is the woman who fascinates me. And this is a call to action for those women to go forth in their struggle for the sake of the future generation. Feminism does not appeal to me. Feminism suffocates the essence of femininity. As in creation, it alters and tampers with the function of woman. A woman does not compete with a guy. Rather, they are a necessary part of his existence.
Women who dare to defy the system fight first and foremost to keep the man’s ego in control. His superiority complex towards the woman heightens the lady’s vulnerability, encouraging her to explore and push boundaries. Their feeling of self-respect emerges in one form or another, almost in their mid-thirties, and fades away beyond 40. Younger women naturally lean and take on the position of housekeeper and spouse in the 1990s, and they are content with their duty. It’s not that it’s incorrect.
But, while she is content in her duty as a nurturer, the million-dollar question is whether the man is willing to recognise her attractiveness and value her involvement in every decision-making process. Is he aware that he is the man who believes himself responsible for his wife’s and children’s pure happiness? Is his decision-making affecting his relationship with his woman? Is he on the lookout for her? Or Is he making her nervous?
Marriage is a roller coaster of emotions. It is customary for the bride-family groom’s to claim the bride as their own from now on, whether in the south or elsewhere. How much does the man here realise that the bride and the bride’s family are experiencing suppressed emotion? After all, the process of conceiving and developing a child is almost identical for both sexes. Both genders receive the same amount of love and compassion from their respective families.
But the woman learns to repress her need to assert that, regardless of the so-called cultural meaning, she is still her parents’ daughter! She attempts to act like a bride should, but her underlying unhappiness resurfaces and becomes a thorn in her relationship with her in-laws. The truth is that when two families come together in marriage, a new family is formed. Could this way of thinking help to create more harmony?
When a new wife is attempting to get to know that one person on his territory, there is a disconnect that destroys the romance. As a marriage counsellor, I saw that most young women fake orgasms to make their partners happy. This argument is also supported by statistics. The holiness of the sexual relationship, as well as its tremendous mighty role in defining the bond between husband and wife, has been taken for granted and has been manipulated and misused. In this era, where live-in relationships are almost normalised, I particularly quote HUSBAND and WIFE. This interaction, which is actually a separate concept, is where the depth of masculinity and women begins.
There is no turning back when intimacy is lacking, the man’s ego is taken care of, and the explanation for a woman’s suppression is accepted. From there, it’s all downhill. No amount of advice or examples will be able to straighten out that marriage, which marks the beginning and end of women’s liberation. I’m sure you’re curious about this piece of information. If a guy does not feel and appreciate his woman’s absolute sexual surrender, he will never regard her to be priceless, and his urge to protect her will never be fulfilled. I’m sure you GUYS are delighted now.
Well…wait… If the woman’s need to be protected and provided for is not met, she will not yield. She’ll never be able to trust a man who lets his relatives abuse her feelings. If she has to worry about how her father laboured to pay off for her marriage, or if she knows there isn’t enough to provide for her children, or if she knows her talents and skills will be buried to rot, she will never give-in to her husband with her whole heart. She will never be able to fulfil her function of delivering and nursing until and until the men are capable of providing and protecting!
The key to creating peaceful families and society is to safeguard her self-respect,
And what do you GUYS get out of it? You gain the most important woman in your life’s surrender and trust. Her love and the peace she generates within the ground that is your world make every step easier and smoother. No woman, even her own man, wants to compete with him. She despises being reliant on him for all of her needs. She simply requires quiet in order to care for the children she has given birth to. She only requires motivation. Just give a shoulder to rest on and a hand to support. Stop putting pressure on her, controlling her, and making her life unpleasant.
Her constant struggle for survival and tranquilly simply underplays her true potential, corroding her inner beauty and calm. There is nothing to gain from this. Rather, it will liberate her to pursue greater goals while also freeing you from your own ego!
And now you’ll see that she’s also adding colour to your life!
Dear MEN, the first move is up to you!
See ya again!
About the Author:
Iniyaval Rajini (aka) Rajini B J Cleford is Founder and Director of theHANDPICKED.in, as well as a wife, mother of three children (a daughter, son, and a dog). Politics, Family Life, and Religion are all topics that fascinate this aspiring blogger and vlogger. With an astitute interest in People and books, she looks forward to making her stay in this world affirmative in making it a better place.
